Why You’ll Never Fully Get Over Them, Based On Your Birth Month

People do not always struggle to move on because of the relationship itself, but because of how that person made them feel.

Some relationships awaken parts of us that we had never experienced before, whether it is emotional safety, excitement, vulnerability, confidence, or a sense of belonging. Even long after a breakup, those feelings can leave a lasting imprint that is difficult to replace. Birth month personality theories take these emotional patterns and imagine the specific reason each type of person has such a hard time letting go. Curious why someone from your past still lingers in your mind? Keep reading to discover why your birth month never fully gets over them.

April

Because they were the one person who made you actually want to slow down for a second. Not slow down your sense of adventure or your love of life – they just made you slow down enough to appreciate your life, to enjoy the little things, to remember that it’s important to not always be chasing after the next thing. They were that one person who taught you how to just be.

May

Because they were the only person who made you feel more secure and happy and peaceful in your relationship, rather than anxious and panicked and worried about it constantly. With them, instead of struggling with jealousy or adequacy or insecurity while you were in love, you simply felt joyful, cared for, and loved.

June

Because they were the only person you’ve ever dated with whom you felt safe enough to truly, truly be yourself. You weren’t worried about showing them your best side or trying to look cool or seeming carefree and light all the time. Instead, you could just be every aspect of yourself, both the good and the bad.

July

Because being in a relationship with them finally made you feel truly appreciated. For once in your love life, you weren’t worried about being taken advantage of or taken for granted. You were just able to be your loving and openhearted self with someone who accepted that love and gave theirs right back to you, rather than someone who just wanted to take, take, take.

August

Because they made you feel like you were on a team, with a partner who worked just as hard and gave just as much as you did. Although you felt frustrated and alone in other relationships, with them you never felt like you had to carry the relationship or do all the work. They always met you half way, they supported and encouraged you, and they made you feel like you had a best friend and total teammate beside you at all times.

September

Because they gave you a sense of calm, belonging, and steadiness that no one else ever had before. Typically, relationships only make you feel more unhappy, anxious, and nervous. But with this person, they were always there to encourage you and reassure you, they could always tell what you were thinking, and they always knew how to calm you down and comfort you when you were feeling worried or isolated or suffocated from your own thoughts.

October

Because they loved just letting you be you, without feeling intimidated or frustrated by it. They weren’t overwhelmed with your social life, the amount of friends you had, or your enthusiastic and charming nature. Instead, they were happy to just sit back, let you do your thing, maintain their own life, and love you for who you are.

November

Because they knew how to challenge you and how to call you on your crap. You’ve always been such a powerful and magnetic presence, but that has sometimes caused you to be more controlling and stubborn than you intended. But this person never let you walk over them or get away with things – they always called you out, they stuck up for themselves, and they made you feel like you had finally met your match.

December

Because this person could connect with you effortlessly and instantly. They loved your light and outgoing side, but they knew how to go below the surface level with you and how to connect with you on a much deeper and more vulnerable level. It felt like they brought out a very introspective and contemplative side of you that most people never got to see.

January

Because this person knew how to love you for who you are while also bringing a sense of fun, joy, and silliness into your life that you hadn’t seen or made time for in a long time. They appreciated and understood your ambition and your focus, but they also could easily make you laugh, remind you to take a break, and be a lightening presence in your life.

February

Because they were the only person who could ever get you to open up. Rather than go back to your comfort zone of detachment and emotional isolation, they were the one person you felt safe enough to be vulnerable with, to talk about your feelings with, and to truly open your heart up to.

March

Because they breathed a sense of new life and energy into what had become a very routine and unchanging lifestyle for you. You definitely appreciate your comfort, which isn’t a bad thing, but this person came into your life like a whirlwind and dared you to live a little more on the edge, to try things that were scary but exciting, and to be willing to fall hard. No one else had ever made you feel like that before.