Who You Should Be Paying More Attention To (Based On Your Birth Month)
Relationships thrive on consistent attention, yet research on social connection shows that many people underestimate how much a simple message, call, or check-in can strengthen a bond. We often assume loved ones know we care, while the other person quietly wishes for a little more time, communication, or reassurance. This playful birth month guide explores where connection may be slipping through the cracks and who could be hoping to hear from you more often than you realize.
As you read, think about the people in your life who have been on your mind lately. There may be a reason they keep crossing your thoughts.
August ➜ January
August: Your bold energy, often makes you the life of the party. There could be a lot of people clamoring for attention in your life right now, but there’s one specific sign you’ve been overlooking: January. It’s possible you’ve been neglecting your relationship with someone born in January close (or maybe not so close at the moment) to you. Get back in touch with the those born in January in your life – their grounded nature can offer stability and a sense of reality when you need it. They’re the ones who can bring structure to your grand plans and ambitions, making them the ideal partners in crime.
January: Yes, it’s you who’s been feeling a tad under-appreciated lately. You may or may not have a close relationship with August, but you might find yourself interested in their personality and wishing you had the opportunity to get to know them better. And that’s understandable – they’re a flashy sign that highlights the best parts of your personality. If you already have a close relationship with August, you wish they’d take a moment to acknowledge the silent support and foundation you offer. It’s not about stealing their limelight; it’s about jointly building something meaningful together.
June ➜ November
June: June, with your sociable demeanor and thirst for knowledge, you have a never-ending list of friends and acquaintances to catch up with. The sign you should bump up on that list, however, is November; if you’re close with someone born in November, it’s likely that they’re feeling like you don’t pay them enough attention. There might be a major life event they want to catch you up to speed on or some advice they’re seeking from you. Those born in November love making deep connections with others and you’re easy to have meaningful chats with, making you both great conversation partners for each other.
November: November, you’re a type that loves a good one-on-one conversation. You’ve probably been thinking that you’d like to hear more from the those born in June in your life. It might have been a while since you’ve had the chance to talk to them, or maybe you’re just looking for a good springboard for some ideas you’ve been working on. It can be hard for you to get June to take a break and sit down with you for a meaningful conversation, though, which might lead to you feeling a little left out.
December ➜ May
December: December, your wanderlust takes you to some incredible places. But you’ve been so busy exploring that you might have been neglecting a few of your relationships. You’re pretty good at staying on top of things, but someone born in May in your life is feeling cast aside. Those born in May are great at balancing you out; they’re steadfast and love routine, opposing your constant need to change things up. However, this does mean that it’s easy for you to accidentally drop communication with them; they’re used to regular check-ins while you tend to reach out whenever it suits you. Give them some extra support, December – they need it from you right now.
May: May, amidst your love for consistency and luxury, you’re feeling a little at odds with the flighty and freedom-loving December. While you admire their sense of adventure, you’re probably also thinking that it would be nice to hear from them every once in a while. Whether you’re missing in-person visits or just feel like they should shoot you a text every once in a while, you’re looking for a little more dedication from December right now. You also don’t want to bother them while they’re out enjoying their freedom, which could make it a little more difficult for you to reach out to them instead of waiting for their call.
April ➜ March
April: April, you charge ahead with unparalleled energy and spirit. But in your rush, you sometimes forget to check in with those around you. Someone born in March in your life is looking to connect with you, and you’re kind of missing their cues. They could be a friend, family member, or even a romantic connection; you’ll have to sort through the people you’re close to and see who you haven’t connected with enough. They may have something they need to address with you or want to talk about something they’re going through.
March: March, you’re looking to hear more from someone born in April in your life. You love to bond over conversations with those you’re close with (or want to get to know better), and communication is your strong suit. Still, you can sometimes feel a little nervous when someone isn’t reaching out to you as much as you’d like; plus, those born in April can be intimidating, so maybe you’re struggling to make that connection with them on your own. Whether the lack of contact is making you anxious or you’re just looking to strengthen your connection with those you haven’t heard from lately, you’re hoping those born in April will make a move to reach out soon.
February ➜ September
February: February, with your innovative ideas and futuristic outlook, you’re always several steps ahead. Your dedication to your work, hobbies, and community is admirable; this also means that you can sometimes let your relationships fade into the background when you’re focused on something or feeling stressed. People born in September are one of the signs feeling the burn of not being talked to right now; their analytical mind doesn’t miss anything, especially not the lack of communication you’ve been fronting with them lately. You might want to check in with the those born in September you’ve been neglecting, February; it’ll help you foster better communication with your loved ones in the future.
September: September, if you’re close to someone born in February, you probably already recognize their tendency to withdraw when they’re busy working. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t sting a little, though! You don’t want to bother them by reaching out too frequently, but you’d still like to hear from them every once in a while. You’re a very communicative sign, so you don’t love it when communication has dynamic ups and downs. In your ideal world, everyone would be a natural at checking in regularly (just like yourself). Unfortunately, you’re stuck waiting to hear back from February. Maybe when they finish their latest project?
October ➜ July
October: October, your charm and knack for balance make you the diplomat of the year. You’re busy mediating everybody’s conflicts, and you’re doing a fantastic job. But that doesn’t mean you’re not missing a type that typically doesn’t need much regulation. July natives are generally pretty conflict-avoidant, so it’s easy to leave them be when everyone else needs so much conflict intervention from you. Still, there’s someone born in July or two in your life that is hoping to hear from you. If you haven’t taken the time to meet up with them one-on-one (or just give them a quick phone call), they’d definitely appreciate it. You’re a hard-working sign, and July definitely respects that – just make sure to let them know you care about them every once in a while. Their sentimental side will appreciate it.
July: July, you love connecting with other people and nurturing them; you’re basically the ‘mom friend’ of the group. October-born individuals are a type that easily deals with their problems (and everyone else’s while they’re at it), so they might not reach out for support quite as often as everyone else does. This can leave you feeling like there are some gaps in your relationship with the those born in October in your life. Don’t fret, July – you might struggle to broach this topic with them, but those born in October are likely to understand your perspective once you get to talking with them.