17 Red Flag First Impressions
Masha Raymers

17 Red Flag First Impressions

β€œNegative self-talk. It’s really hard to have a conversation with someone who thinks they’re less than. If you think you’re trash, why would anyone want to be associated with you? Trying to convince someone they’re not trash is exhausting and itΒ isΒ a turn offΒ for meΒ when meeting new people. I can handle friends who talk poorly about themselves, and I have, but I won’t become a new person’s therapist. I deserve to have peace of mind too.” β€” polarisborealis

β€œHaving to take pics of the food/drinks for social media before you can get down to the date. There are people out there that will literally take your cocktails to stage for a photo for Instagram on the first date.Β β€œ β€” This_Leek744

β€œWhen they bring an entourage. Expecting to meet one person and seeing several is enough to make me turn around and go home.” β€” Sentsuizan

β€œWhen someone name drops designer labels. Not my purse, but my Gucci bag.” β€” PurplePineapples30

β€œThey start using pet names right away. Honey, babe, sweetie… How about just using my name until we get to know each other?” β€” zodwallopp

β€œConstant negativity, gossip, apparent love of social conflict; anything that makes me assume that as soon as we part ways, they’ll start speaking poorly of me for any reason they can.” β€” neuro_illogical

β€œWhen they expect you to pay for their meal/drink when you never offered to. I feel like it should be custom nowadays to split the bill on the first date.” β€” sCatTrbrAiNd_

β€œThey stand WAY too close and don’t consider personal space or personal hygiene.Β β€œ β€” OpenRepair4390

β€œWhen they spread. I mean, they’re sitting on a couch by themselves, but they spread their legs and arms so much they end up taking up the whole couch.” β€” always_sewing

β€œAsking you a question and then proceeding to interrupt you while you’re answering. That is the quickest way to piss me off and not want to talk.” β€” Fuzzy_Card8173

β€œWhen their first reaction is to comment on a specific part of your physical appearance like the size of your feet or something like that.” β€” endofthehold

β€œA person who squeezes your fingers really hard when handshaking. But the dead fish handshake is equally annoying.” β€” JksG_5

β€œBragging. Seems like a lot of people try to impress you off the bat by subtly bragging. I hate it.” β€” SnooTigers8111

β€œAny form of coercion to go back to their place if I’ve already said no. Red flag of disrespect for boundaries.” β€” xfalinex

β€œSpitting. I have no clue why but so many guy cant seem to regulate the saliva in their mouths and feel the need to spit on the floor when walking down the street. It’s gross, it’s disgusting, just swallow it please.” β€” Ok-Somewhere-790

β€œWhen half the things they say are negative or shit talking about other people.” β€” WorkStudyPlay

β€œPeople who talk so much about themselves that when you try saying something about you, they reply β€˜ehm ok’ and start talking about themselves AGAIN. I don’t have problem with talkative people, I love to talk, but I can’t bear when it’s only one sided.” β€” Aterakel