16 People With High Standards Share Their Non-Negotiables In Relationships

It’s important to keep your standards high. Otherwise, you’re going to end up in a relationship that makes you feel insecure and unloved. Here are some non-negotiables that people with high standards have:

“Willingness and effort to spend time together. Shit happens and I understand that but if you don’t try to replan something I’m out.” — giggles

“Try to control me even one iota and I am noping out so fucking fast. No second chances.” — Impressive-Leave7587

“Affection. I’m not asking for anything crazy, like they have to dedicate every second of every day to me, but I want them to text me daily, physical contact in person even if it’s just holding hands or a hug, and talking gently to me and letting me know they care. A good balance of that is all I want in a relationship. It goes both ways, too. But if a relationship has none of that I don’t view it as a relationship.” — wowzaowow

“Can’t be friends with an ex or anyone they’ve hooked up with. I don’t care if that makes me insecure. I’ve tried and tried and I couldn’t get over it. it’s a comfort thing.” — caelanitz

“Daily/excessive drinking. I don’t care if you drink in the home, or socially, or if you get completely blitzed at a wedding or something like that, but if you are drinking every day or always drink to excess, I’m done. I was raised by alcoholics, and I don’t want any of that mess around my children.” — BICSb4DICS

“Trust. You must be trustworthy and be able to trust me.” — MemoriesSewer

“Honesty. If you struggle with something, there are always ways to deal with it. If you don’t tell me, I can’t know since I can’t read minds. Learnt that the hard way.” — Young-Rider

“Incompetence. If you don’t know how to do your laundry, cook a meal, or clean anything then I don’t want to be with you. I’m not your mother or your maid.” — dragonborne123

“Monogamy. I don’t cheat, I don’t tolerate cheating, and I won’t help someone cheat. If someone is already in a relationship, I don’t even consider them as a romantic prospect.” — CitizenCobalt

“My cats. They’re just as much family as anyone else. Had a girl once tell me that either my cats go…. or she goes. Turned out not to be too hard of a decision.” — sidmel

“Desire to not have kids. Neither of us should have to compromise. If you want to have a child one day find someone else who also does. Personally I don’t.” — JustGuyWithACat

“Work ethic. I’m not paying your bills.” — All0uttaBubblegum

“No cheating, no lies, complete honesty. So we’ll be able to have a full faith in each other. Otherwise this just won’t work.” — Virjex

“We don’t treat each other as property. We are both adults. We each live our own lives.” — Rddtsckslots

“A fair fighting contract. My girlfriend and I made one. It’s things that are not allowed in fights no matter what (ie we cannot name call, bring up the past, or leave mad unless you have work or an appointment, and even then you have to say I love you).” — Massive_Mess03

“Partner has to eat with their mouth closed. I really can’t stand open mouthed chewing. That is the hill I die on.” — YouProbablyBoreMe