16 People Share Their Secret Relationship Fears (That Are Super Common)
Itās natural to be scared of getting attached. After all, thereās so much that could go wrong in a relationship. Here are some super common relationship fears to prove you arenāt alone in feeling this way:
āIām scared that Iāll smother someone in affection and itāll turn them off from me. Iāve always felt emotions strongly, and sometimes I have to reign it back, but I worry that Iāll fall for someone hard and they wonāt have the same reaction.ā ā BaByJeZuZ012
āIām scared of having an amazing relationship and loving each other a lot but having a fundamental incompatibility which means you donāt have a future together and at some point you have to make the decision to break up despite nothing being wrong.ā ā MakingYouMad
āIām scared that theyāll meet someone better than me. Itās happened far too often and I donāt know if I could ever not have that thought in the back of my mind.ā ā Waniou
āIām scared that they donāt like me back, even if it is only a platonic relationship. I worry every day that my friends only hang out with me because they feel bad for me. If I donāt get enough attention in a relationship then I start to panic and wonder if itās one-sided.ā ā bixelss
āIām scared that the tiny things that the other person does, the weird habits which you donāt understand, which seem adorable or quirky initially, might start grating on you over time. That youāll run out of things to say one day and you will not not want to know how their day went or what theyāre up to. That going out on dates will just be a formality because it is a familiar and convenient ritual, and you have adjusted to it now even though you donāt care about meeting.ā ā InnocuousCyanide
āIām scaredĀ that theyāll lose interest or stop being attracted to me.ā ā theatregirl2001
āIām scared that things I told him in confidence will no longer be kept to himself.ā ā bllaaushpibu
āIām scared that sheāll notice the things Iām insecure about and leave me.ā ā drayd38
āIām scared that Iāve already met and lost the love of my life (which is something I didnāt believe in before I met her). I worry that Iāll never value any relationship enough as it will always feel like a consolation prize and that whoever Iām with will sense that and it will tear us apart. I crave intimacy like any human being but fear it will cause too much pain for everyone involved.ā ā TellMeHowImWrong
āIām scared that it will become abusive like my first long term relationship.ā ā NumerousAnybody
āIām scared of losing my independence and not being able to do what I want, when I want. Guess thatās why Iāve been single for so long and donāt really want a relationship.ā ā DeathSpiral321
āIām scared that the other is person playing me/cheating on me. That happened once when I was heavily interested in a person and was wanting to move forward in our relationship. It hurt me when I found out and took a long time to get over.ā ā Elfslayer95
āIām scared of being emotionally invested into something that might not work.ā ā [deleted]
āIām scared of missing out on something better.ā ā LachsAtoll003
āIām scared of wasting my time. Likeā¦ is this worth the time and energy I put into it? Will this be worth it?ā ā Sourdough85