12 Casual Ways To Ask Someone If They’re Single

If you aren’t sure whether your crush is in a relationship, there are plenty of ways to discover the information without embarrassing yourself. Remember, there’s nothing wrong with broaching the topic. If you don’t ask, you’ll never know! Here are a few tips for finding out whether the person you want to date is actually single:

“Ask what they’re up to over the weekend. Most couples would spend the weekend together.” — StairwaytoPancakes

“One friend who I definitely didn’t realize was into me pulled the ‘what did you do for your girlfriend for national girlfriends day line?’ Felt pretty normal at the time.” — Jewbacca289

“You have any valentines plans with your SO?” — Black_Bastard

“Just ask them stuff about themselves, what they’re doing that weekend, if there are any movies they’re looking forward to seeing in the theater, what they do for fun etc. They’ll have every opportunity to include their SO in their reply.” — Azozel

“’Is anyone gonna kick my ass if I ask you out?’ is a personal favorite way of phrasing it.” — NicoLogoski

“Usually during a conversation if you hear ‘we’ a lot (women tend to do this it seems), it usually implies her and a significant other.” — shadowCloudrift

“Don’t ask nonchalantly, ask directly. ‘I want to go out with you, on a date but I don’t know if you’re already seeing someone. Are you single?’ Any ‘subtle’ way to ask is going to come across as weak no matter how much you try to veil it. Just be honest with your feelings.” — wearsAtrenchcoat

“If you just sort of casually met in a group setting, you could act like you thought they were a couple with someone else who was in the group and be like, ‘You”re dating that guy Bob, right?’ and then they will correct you and that’s your answer.” — Zack1018

“What is wrong with the direct approach? ‘Are you seeing anyone?’ is a socially acceptable way to ask, but amid the rise of non-conventional relationships, it might be wiser to ask, ‘Could you be open to spending some time together?’ This way, if your target is in some sort of open relationship, you could get a positive from the latter, where the first would indicate a negative.” — SurlyJason

“When he/she does something interesting say, ‘Your boyfriend/girlfriend is really lucky that you know how to drive stick shift (or whatever).’ Oh I don’t have a bf/gf...” — ClownfishSoup

“Invite them to a party/event with the invitation of ‘you, plus one.’ When they respond affirmatively they plan on attending they’ll let you know if they have a ‘plus one’ or not.” — llcucf80

“If someone is interested in you they’ll volunteer the information that they don’t have a boyfriend/ girlfriend; likewise the opposite is also true. You may need to learn to be clever enough to spot subtle clues or hints that they’re single, so put on your detective hat and get to work! Genuine listening is key!” — Crueltea