4 Zodiac Signs That Truly Listen

Cancer

You often take it upon yourself to nurture other people by listening to their feelings. You feel it’s your duty, even if other people don’t specifically ask you to do so. As someone who is naturally shy – and can sometimes even come across as reserved in group settings – you may feel most comfortable when you’re listening to someone else as opposed to sharing. You like having a goal in a conversation that doesn’t mean you have to speak about yourself – you might take it upon yourself to let someone else vent, try to placate them, resolve an argument, or make them feel better about something.

This is an honorable task that your friends and family no doubt appreciate, but they might not realize that in the process, they’re losing out on knowing about you, too. A difficult thing for many listeners to understand is that those who are not listeners don’t understand that sometimes, you feel an inability to speak – not just a dislike of speaking up. It can be hard for you to want to compete for a spot in the conversation. One-on-one discussions are where you flourish most, and this can be a good way to connect more deeply with those you care about.

Libra

In group contexts, you’re always the listener. You might find that opposing sides of an argument will always seek you out to settle tensions. Like you’re the parent of the group, you find yourself having to listen to all sides of an argument and come up with a solution on the fly to keep everyone happy. As the reigning ruler of compromises, most of your time is spent listening, not actually talking. 

You take it upon yourself to relieve everyone else of the burdens of their problems. It admittedly does feel pretty good for your sign to resolve a conflict, but when that doesn’t happen, you’re usually the one who shoulders the most weight of the argument. Even when peaceful resolutions do happen, devoting your energy to so much listening can be exhausting – especially when you weren’t even involved in the original conflict! If you really want to help, you can always opt to give a few pointers and resources to those that come to you for advice before washing your hands of the situation. But you certainly wouldn’t be in the wrong to take a break from your role as impromptu advisor for a while.

Virgo

Most of your time is spent offering advice to others, Virgo. As a practical sign with a solution for everything, it’s natural for others to want to seek you out when they have a problem. The issue is, everyone who’s seeking a one-on-one session with you can’t see how many other people you’re trying to deal with, too. You might feel more like a confessional than a friend on some days, especially when you devote yourself to fixing multiple big problems for different people all at once.

That’s not to say that you shouldn’t share your pragmatism with those you care about, but you don’t need to force yourself to be a sounding board for other people, either. It can be useful for others to vent to you or talk out their problems, but you should be getting the same level of reciprocation from them. One problem Virgos often run into is that they feel like they can solve all of their own problems, so they don’t need to talk about it with anyone else. In that case, you should preserve your energy when trying to solve others’ issues for them – and make sure that you’re still seeing conversational reciprocation, too.

Taurus

An introverted, peaceful sign, you’re often the person others turn to for a bit of solace and advice. You live a calming, cozy life – your sign is often known for being a good gardener and a good cook, both of which might make people find you more approachable. You don’t mind talking about yourself, but often find yourself being talked over instead. Whether or not you’ll speak up for yourself truly depends – as the sign of the bull, you can become stubborn on issues you care about, but the chances of everyone you speak to seeing that spark are slim.

To protect that peace you cherish so much in your daily life, you’ll need to limit the conversations you can have with others about their own issues. You’re a great person to vent to, Taurus – you know all the right places to agree and validate others’ feelings – but that doesn’t mean you have to listen like it’s a full-time job. You’ll need to look for people who can not only respect your boundaries, but also respect your conversation style. If you want reciprocation from your social circle by being given the space to rant about your hobbies or discuss your career, you deserve that too.