5 Zodiacs That Are Most Likely To Have Avoidant Attachment Styles

Aries

It’s not uncommon for Aries to fall into the trap of wanting what they can’t have. This is indicated by their association with The Emperor tarot card which represents the masculine energy and drive. So by nature, Aries loves the chase. They love the thrill of the hunt and feeling like they’ve “won” someone over but this is a double-edged sword because god forbid someone likes them back. Their avoidant tendencies tend to kick in when they feel like their potential mate is too “easy” to win over. Whether they want to admit it or not, they tend to fall for people who play hard to get but when faced with a potential relationship, they tend to freeze up and overthink things a bit. It’s hard for them to rationalize their true feelings and emotions so when it comes to commitment, they can’t be pressed too hard or else they have a tendency to shut down. They also typically have a fear of emotional intimacy so for them to open up it requires a bit of patience. However, most people don’t have the time or patience to wait for Aries to get to the same emotional level as them.

Gemini

Although Gemini’s are the sign of The Lovers tarot card, they tend to be a bit of a mixed bag when it comes to commitment. They exist in extremes and they are either a hundred percent in, or a hundred percent out. There is no in-between with, Gemini’s. They love the honeymoon phase but often mistake intense feelings of lust for love. So once the honeymoon phase starts to wear off, they confuse the lack of intensity as an absence of love and passion thus triggering their avoidant tendencies. They’re most likely the ones to initiate a breakup but they’re also most likely to come back once they’ve had some space and time to realize how much they do care about you. This can leave the other person incredibly confused and stuck on an emotional roller coaster if they don’t know how to handle Gemini’s shifts.

Virgo

Virgos being on this list shouldn’t be much of a surprise. They are represented by The Hermit tarot card after all and so they tend to walk through life alone. They prefer it this way. Though they crave a relationship, they tend to put up barriers that limit the access that others have to them. Creating incredibly high expectations of potential partners that are almost impossible to meet. They do this to protect themselves from pain and betrayal. This is quite understandable, after all, there is a saying that loving someone is giving them all the tools to hurt you and trusting them not to. Virgos are very aware of the emotional danger they are putting themselves into when it comes to love and relationships. They also fear the loss of independence. As I said before, they tend to walk through life alone, consumed by their thoughts and driven by their mission in life. The idea of losing their independence scares them because, to them, it means a loss of a sense of self. They fear losing themselves in love and becoming a version of themselves that they don’t recognize. They resent partners who try and change them and try to veer them off course from their life missions.

Sagittarius

Sag tends to be quite impulsive. As a result, they typically don’t allow themselves the chance to think their decisions through before pulling the trigger. So when it comes to relationships, the second they feel a twinge of cold feet, they run. Commitment tends to trigger this within them. It’s hard to talk things through with Sagittarius when it comes to commitment because attempting to might push them farther and farther away. At the worst of times, Sagittarius can be rather reckless with the emotions of others, not realizing the consequences of being so flighty. This tendency is rooted in a desire to protect their independence and sense of freedom but sadly, the other person tends to be collateral damage. They don’t do it on purpose and it’s not that they don’t care about the other person. What happens a lot is that once Sag realizes they’ve hurt the other person due to their hot and cold behavior, Sag will run away and leave the person forever because they feel like they’re doing the right thing. And this way, they can figure out where they went wrong and do better by next time around. However this often becomes a cycle they may or may not be able to break.

Capricorn

Ask any Capricorn and almost all of them will have some sort of five-year plan. If not a five-year plan, then they have an idealized version of themselves that they wish to become. This idealized version may have the perfect dream job, live in the perfect dream home, with the perfect dream car, in the perfect dream town or city. They have a vision of the person they want to become and the life that they want to live. While this is a great quality of Capricorns, when it comes to commitment, it does get in the way. You see, Capricorns have a life checklist and this checklist must be done in a very specific order. They feel like they have to get A, B, and C, done before they can get to D. So if D is a relationship but they haven’t checked off C, then that means potential partners will have to wait until then. A lot of Capricorns avoid intimacy by convincing themselves that the timing just isn’t right. They can’t even begin to entertain a relationship because they fear that it’ll end up being a huge distraction. They tend to bury themselves in work in an attempt to avoid intimacy. If they’re able to keep themselves busy, then they are able to prolong settling down. But all of this is merely a ploy to avoid intimacy. Relationships require sacrifice and vulnerability, two qualities that stubborn Capricorn struggles with. On the positive side. It’s usually the initial commitment that Capricorns struggle making. But once they are in a relationship and feel comfortable, they are fiercely loyal and it take a lot for them to want to leave.

Aquarius

When I think of Aquarius, I think of Summer from “500 Days of Summer”. They don’t want to feel like they “belong” to someone. They don’t like the idea of being somebody’s wife/husband or girlfriend/boyfriend. Though they have no issue finding romance and connecting deeply and intimately with others, getting them to stick around for long is the hard part. They are free-spirited souls who love variety in life. They feel like the purpose of living is to experience every facet of life that they possibly can. They’re constantly wondering what else is out there waiting for them. But it is the allusion of the grass being greener on the other side that plays into their attachment style, hence why they tend to be avoidant. They sometimes feel that a serious commitment means they will miss out on other experiences, not understanding that commitment is a unique experience in and of itself.